Are you happy with everything going on in your life right now?
Chances are, if you are reading this, you are looking for some sort of improvement.
Maybe you’re looking for some breakthrough in your relationship because, for whatever reason, you or your partner has hit an impasse.
Maybe you’re stuck in a job you hate.
Maybe you feel that you are not in the best physical shape you’re otherwise capable of achieving. Make no mistake, pain is part of the human experience.
There’s no such thing as a perfect life. There’s no such thing as a life that involves just an unlimited amount of rainbows, and smiles, and lollipops.
We live in reality and believe me, there is always room for improvement.
At the very least, most of us are living far below our potential.
We know we are capable of so much more.
We know that we have the raw ingredients for great success and accomplishment in this life.
Still, for whatever reason, often self-inflicted, we fail to live up to our fullest potential.
Too many of us live lives of guilt, regret, remorse, anger, resentment, and blame-finding.
Please understand that if you want to achieve better things in your life, the only person that can truly hold you back spells his/her name this way: Y-O-U.
That’s right, you’re the person holding yourself back. If you don’t believe me, look at the biographies of great people who have accomplished so much. A lot of them went through adversity. A lot of them actually had a long line of people telling them that they are too stupid, too poor, too backward, too ugly, and gave them a million other reasons why they could not succeed.
Yet they are up there, and you’re down here. You have to understand that it’s not where you come from that defines you. It’s not your painful childhood trauma, or childhood poverty, or lack of advantages that hold you back.
Many people have overcome bone-grinding poverty to die billionaires. A lot of people ended up with great careers, although they faced discouragement their whole life. So, it’s not your circumstances that define you.
As the stoic philosopher, Epictetus said: It is not circumstances that make the man, they simply reveal him to himself.
You have to understand that everything that’s going on around you is an opportunity. You may be thinking to yourself, “Well, I’m going to jail soon, is that an opportunity? My girlfriend just broke up with me, where’s the opportunity there? I’m stuck in a job that sucks, and my boss is an ogre. I don’t see any opportunities.”
Well, the only opportunity that is always present at any time of your life is the opportunity to overcome, because what you consider a trial, an ordeal, or a hassle, somebody else can see as a tremendous blessing. It all depends on perspective.
Because when you change your perspective, YOU change your character.